The future is the aggregate of days assembled into a whole. A repeated number of days under-utilized will add up to a whole life of underachievement. Deep down, we all crave success more than anything else. We believe it will make us happier at the end of the day. Thus, we hope to become successful either by running into luck or some sort of an abrupt life-altering encounter.
Sadly, success doesn’t happen that way. It is a daily phenomenon. If you desire a successful life, it is up to you to secure a successful year and to achieve that, Most days of the year must radiate success at a molecular level.
Our entire existence is an intricate one. You can’t tell for sure what tiny part of the whole system could go awry. Your task therefore is to keep a close eye on every part even to the minutest and the least expected of places.
Your thinking has the capacity to thwart your plans and the tendency to clog your progress in the same way and manner it can catapult you to success.
The three thought patterns outlined hereunder can significantly undermine your daily progress if not ditched.
1. Thinking that the world revolves around them.
This thinking and the actions that extends there from force us to shift focus to ourselves and to assume a skewed sense of importance.
Surely, we are important, probably more than anything else in the world. As we are wont to believe. But then, the cooperation of others is needed to feed this bloated sense of self. To garner that cooperation, the world must be made to revolve around others and us.
Success and happiness depend largely on the value we create for others. Nobody falls in love with me because all I care about is myself. In love and in business, attention is evenly distributed between you and the other person. So that everyone demands and gets what’s in it for them. I can only gain love by giving to others, and a customer will only part with their money when they perceive the possibility of value.
Shifting focus to your interests and desires to the exclusion of the need of others deprives you of a great deal of goodwill, friendships and business.
In the book “how to win friends and influence people,” Dale Carnegie wrote,
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
When we rattle on and on about ourselves, without taking the time to listen actively to the other person, we lose their trust. Without trust it’s almost impossible to close a sale or gain anything of value from others.
“If there is one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own” said Henry ford.
2. Thinking that they are invincible
So many of us are incapacitated by insecurities that we fail to take the steps that will propel us forward.
On the other end of the spectrum, is the propensity to rest on our oars. A smugness that exposes us to adversarial elements.
No one of us is immune from risks, losses or defeats. I can be beaten and so can you. Do not underestimate any competitor or foe. Defeats can spring up from the most unexpected places. Therefore, we must never let down our guard.
The successful are cognizant of their weaknesses in knowledge, skills and habits. So, they make effort to stock up the gaps in these areas. Consequently, achievement become like a second nature to them. They are able to seize opportunities because they are prepared.
3. Thinking that people are bad and are out to get a piece of them.
It is true there are bad people and some of them are out to ensure you fall and never rise. But to meet every one you come across with an air of distrust mars more than it makes.
This form of paranoia blocks us from allowing ourselves to engage in intimate connections with others. That I got burnt through past encounters with a few people is no excuse to close up to others.
You can always be on guard during every day encounters to protect your weaknesses but the option of alienating yourself does further damage.
“But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from-it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you more conspicuous and an easy target.” Robert Greene, The 48 laws of Power.
To be better positioned for the opportunities in the offing, you need to uproot these excesses from your thoughts.
Underachievers are embodiments of all thoughts objectionable.The three patterns discussed here are a few of the numerous ways underachievers sabotage themselves.
You can share with us the others you are familiar with or have experienced.